Blog Post March 2025
Hi Mamas,
As the season is changing I have been doing some mulling over change and control, or lack thereof, and the fear or anxiety it can bring.
Change is a weird one, as its the only thing that’s ever certain. It’s also often out of our control. For someone who enjoys control and the constant, change can feel intimidating. The unknown always feels uncertain and with that comes feelings of insecurity, not knowing if we are doing a good enough job, and then feelings of fear which pop up out of nowhere and can overtake our brains if we let them. I have found that the further into motherhood I get, the more work it takes to keep those feelings of fear at bay. To give into the lack of control. As my kids get older and we have spent more years together, the love grows deeper. Each day I am with my husband I am more grateful than I could ever have imagined I would be. When I see my kids do something I am proud of or I hear them say something I have been teaching them for so long and wasn’t sure was sinking in, the love deepens. And so does the fear.
It is our job to grow around this fear and keep embracing the love. It is our job to evolve and understand, acknowledge and temper the anxiety. We must become more. For ourselves and for our kids. We need to be vulnerable and show our fears, but also keep them tamed so they do not overtake us and allow us to spiral into darkness.
As moms, it is our job to develop the strength to weather the changes. We will not always be the same person from year to year or decade to decade. The environment and people around us have some impact on defining our identities. Work in part defines us, our children, our partners and our household in part defines us, our hobbies, our friendships and our passions define us. These change over time and that is good as they all form a small part of us and continue to help us to become the best version of ourselves. To me that seems to be the ultimate goal, to always strive to be a better version of ourselves. For ourselves and for those we love.
To do this, we need to grow. We need to learn. We can understand more about ourselves through reading, podcasts, therapy, wise friends and mentors, mistakes we make and successes we have. Our growth should only be measured against ourselves not against others. This can be hard to do when you don’t have a true sense of who you are, and always compare yourselves to others. Remember there is only one of you. You have your own special gifts and talents that no one else has. Embrace those and truly tap into the passion and authenticity of who you are, because you can inspire so many people to also be their true selves when you do.
Let's work on Be[ing] More this week Mamas.
Have a great week.
Natalie x
Weekly Reminder - "I will focus on what I can control and surrender the rest" (say in your head, whisper, say out loud, write it down and shout it out, multiple times a day).
Weekly Read/Audible - Let Them by Mel Robbins - her new book about letting things go.
Weekly Reset - Pick a book or a podcast in an area you want to grow in. Download it or buy it and schedule in 5 minutes each day to read or listen to it. It's that simple!
